-- May Direct Answers
from Wayne and Tamara
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-- Direct Answers by Wayne and Tamara
"I'm really confused and need to vent to someone who knows nothing about me.
I've dated my boyfriend nine months. He's 25, I'm 20 and it's my first real relationship. It's been quite a whirlwind full of new experiences and opportunities to learn more about myself. But one question lingers.
He loves me and is affectionate about it, too, yet I find myself wondering if I should break up with him. Then I remind myself I have no tangible reason to. But I don't know! He is such a great boyfriend and a wonderfully kind, funny person, yet I am constantly left feeling hollow inside."
Wayne & Tamara's Answer:
"Rita, U.S. Supreme Court justice Potter Stewart once said that he didn't know how to define pornography. But, he added, "I know it when I see it." Genuine love is like that, too. We may not be able to put a finger on why we love. We just do.
We often get letters like yours. Part of your problem is this. When it's not love and the other person is a jerk, it's easy to move on. But if he is a great person, loves us or makes our life better, it's hard to let him go, even when we know we don't share his love.
You get so much from your boyfriend you realize he is a great guy, but you don't get the one thing that makes him essential. Love.
Love, like pornography, may be hard to define, but intuitively you realize it is more than what you feel for him."
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